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Kellyanne Conway: Men Don’t Want Their Wives to Work in the White House

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Kellyanne Conway is the first woman to run a successful U.S. presidential campaign, but don’t wait for her to accept a position in the White House. While speaking at the Women Rule Summit in Washington, D.C., Conway said:

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“My children are 12, 12, 8, and 7, which is bad idea, bad idea, bad idea, bad idea for mom going inside [the White House].”

Conway noted that turning down a job in the Trump administration “would be my personal choice and not a demand on me,” but also mentioned her response to male cabinet candidates who asked if she would consider a White House job.

“I do politely mention to them that the question isn’t ‘Would you take the job?’ — the male sitting across from me who’s about to take a big role in the White House — but ‘Would you want your wife to?’ And you really see their entire visage change. It’s like, oh, no, they wouldn’t want their wife to take that job.”

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Conway also said:

“It’s a great time to be a woman in America. We’re products of our choices, not just our circumstances. We’re independent thinkers. And it’s just a very special time.”

Something doesn’t add up here.

Kellyanne Conway’s Contradictory Advice For Working Women

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On the one hand, Conway is saying that women can make choices for themselves, and not just let circumstances determine their lives and careers. Her choice not to seek a position in the White House isn’t necessarily at odds with this: there’s no reason why anyone, male or female, should feel compelled to go for a high-powered job over a chance to spend more time with their families. The problem isn’t with Conway’s personal choice — it’s with the implication she’s asking the audience to draw, when she says male cabinet picks agreed they wouldn’t want their wives to work in the White House.

…But They Probably Shouldn’t Take Jobs in the White House.

Conway says she hopes to “maybe help America’s women in terms of feeling less guilty about balancing life and career.” But by mentioning that her male colleagues would prefer their wives to have less high-powered jobs, she’s clearly endorsing one way of balancing those priorities. Worse: she’s making it seem like the opinions of a group of men are somehow more important than any career aspirations their wives might have.

Valerie Jarrett, the keynote speaker at the Women Rule Summit and a former senior advisor to President Barack Obama, said that she encouraged Conway to consider a role in the White House.

“I encouraged her to give it a try,” Jarrett said. “First of all, because the experience inside the White House, working with somebody who you respect and know as well as she does — the president-elect — is unique, and I’ve had the benefit of that, and I wouldn’t have traded the last years for anything.”

In the end, it matters less which decision Conway makes, and more that women feel the choice is truly up to them.

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Janet Therese
Janet Therese

Whether you realize it or not, you’re making a HUGE leap from Ms Conway’s perspective on how she approaches this (and related to her audience with a funny anecdote), to “she’s contradicted herself by arguing women shouldn’t serve in the White House because men don’t want them to.” You have an interpretation that’s not Ms Conway’s reality. Her very clear point is that women are a product of their choices rather than circumstances, and it’s her personal choice not to… Read more »


There are some pretty biased implications you’re making here, though I do appreciate your acknowledgement that there is nothing wrong with her decision itself. I agree, and we should continue to support and celebrate each other as women, regardless of our choice to take a position or not. First, you say “men” don’t want their wives to work in the White House in your title. Then you get more specific and say that “male cabinet picks” agreed they don’t want… Read more »

Donald Azevedo
Donald Azevedo

Not someone who’s opinion I care about.

Sandra K Crosby
Sandra K Crosby

Someone should tell her that it is 2016 (not 1950)……and that it takes TWO working for cheapskates to have a roof over their heads and food on the table…….and that some of us don’t even have that option, since we divorved drunks and abusive men, who think FOR her…..which she makes obvious Everytime she opens her pie hole.

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